Thought Fighters ?
You Must be thinking What’s this ? Dwelling in thoughts and Talking to People in thoughts…..any idea? ……. It’s very common, in-fact hobby of many, people usually talk to people in their thoughts. Specially those who have lesser chance to express or are rather suppressed, do this more. Why? Why is it? Are they afraid of insult or are cowards? NO…. I would rather call them Fighters….”Thought fighters” There are many who talk to their teachers, parents, officers or rivals, very violently and aggressively at times, but all in their thoughts or dreams.
I was also one of these “thought fighters” few years back. I would talk to all those whom I disagreed, in length, but not in reality. My debate in my mind will continue for hours and sometimes for days with the people, those people who were completely unaware of this fact and would have been enjoying their life at that point…hhh so this was more a problem than a solution. Then suddenly I could see the what actual problem was – The problem was that I couldn’t not decide what to do when it was most crucial?
Why decision making is so difficult…. particularly to those who are more sensitive and caring. Decision making is not tough it’s rather a simple algorithm of facts and wisdom. Yet it has never been taught to us, we were rather taught to follow decisions taken by others (orders!!!) We were not allowed even to ask why this decision was taken for me? Or Why I wasn’t party in this decision ? Anyways with such conditioning, Can anyone suddenly take right decision at right time….that is when there is a need or when it comes to decide finally…..To top it with more stress…. zero error rate is expected, that too without genuine practice. There are thus many “thought fighters” bred in our culture, so was I. To come out of these cycles of generating more and more thought fighters we must start practising fee simple steps of decision making:
- What is this ? (Do I know about this Situation – Temporary or Lasting/Beneficial or Damaging )
* Yes – go ahead
* No – gather more information
- Why I am part of it? Is it required really?
**If No… .. Move Out without hesitation
** If Yes..to what extent I should be involved?
- Do I have resources ? (Very Important)
- *Yes – go ahead,
- *No – Gather resources
Be confident and Speak up your mind, then and there…as any thing that come to us whether it is expressed in words or acted upon or kept to ourselves will be a Decision……
Do you still want to be thought fighters or real Life doer…choice is yours.